My baby boy is 15. I can hardly believe it. I have been accused of babying Preston just a little bit…..because the start of his life was a bit rocky…his dad left us before he was even a year old and he came into a broken home. I was a wreck and so was his father at the time. I felt (at the time) like he didn’t get a fair shot. But I also thought he would be my last child. He was the only child that I thought looked a little bit like me. ( now I have a mini-me)
Preston is very generous. He is the child who remembers to buy gifts for holidays, birthdays and if he isn’t around for those occasions he always calls. Preston wants everyone to love him. He is always trying to fit in….( which will be his downfall) I think that all stems from birth order. He is the youngest of 4 boys and has always been treated by the men in his life like he should be older than he is…he was a tall kid (always) and he not only wanted to keep up with them …he was kind of forced to because it was expected of him. There were times I had to step in and save him and point out that he was younger ect. Now he is pretty much on an even playing field. He is 15 and taller than most of the other boys..and not far behind one….he is pretty muscular and competes well in anything he does.
When he was in middle school he would go to the high school and work out with the high schoolers…they would beat him around like a rag doll…but he took it….because he knew it was good for him to compete like that. By doing that he won some respect from his brothers as well. Bryce would come home bragging about how great Preston handles himself.
Preston is also really smart. Not just smart but smart in the fact that he applies himself. I was pretty proud this year.One of his favorite teachers has experience getting kids ready and prepped for College. She has helped many students get to an ivy league school. She said Preston has everything he needs to get in. If that was the path he wanted take we could start prepping him ( he is a freshman). We discussed it and it’s not a path we are going to take…..but I just have to explain what that meant for me.
I had this burst of PRIDE that just welled up deep within me. So much I couldn’t process it fully in a day or two. I raised a child in such a way that his gifts are revealed and that I could offer him a path to follow in those-> if he so wished. Coming from where I come from? I still tear up thinking about it. I knew he was crazy smart…..I am not saying that I didn’t know. I am not saying that I limit my kids’ abilities or anything. I am just not a rich person and I guess I limit my own abilities (always). But I know that I would do anything I could to help my son. Preston keeps thinking that he wants to be a math teacher or a dentist…after he pondered that …he thought wasting time & money on an IVY league education wasn’t very practical. I love him for that. That takes a lot of pressure off all of us…..and I think practical like that.
Preston still gives me a hug every night before he goes to bed and tells me every day he loves me. I love that about him.
Preston’s nickname around here is “Prestone”…”Prestino” is also thrown around.. Rob gave that to him when he was little because he always flexed his muscles. LOL!
Preston also had his first Summer job interview this week. We are waiting to hear if he has a job. I think he did great! I am praying for him. In 6 months he will be getting his drivers permit and I will have another child driving …that makes me sad..but also happy for him and this milestone. Watching him grow into a man has been such a joy for me. God knew what he was doing and in the perfect timing. I thought maybe we didn’t deserve him because of our circumstances…but he has been an absolute joy and bright spot in my life. He is always smiling….and cracking jokes..even if the rest of us don’t understand them. He laughs at dumb things that none of us understand…..LOL. But we laugh because he is laughing.
Preston is also a dabbler. He dabbles in a bit of everything to see what he likes (I am a bit like that myself). I think until we come into our own we will do things to fit in….but I think Preston has a much better foundation than I had so he will find stable footing faster than myself. I don’t really worry about him a lot because he is so smart and resourceful and he actually applies himself. There is nothing worse than having strengths and gifts and not using them. Preston will actually use his to benefit himself and others around him. Preston is also a terrible liar. I kind of like that….and as he pointed it out when his brother was making fun of him last night -> “Being a good liar is not a good quality” I couldn’t agree more!
So to my wonderfully handsome, intelligent and delightful son. Happy Birthday. I am amazed and awed by you every day. I am amazed that God gave you to me. That he trusted me to be your mom. I don’t take that task lightly. I am honored that you are my son. You make me so proud. I am excited that I get to be a part of your journey. I can’t wait to see how your life unfolds and how you will live to use your gifts that God gave you in order to honor Him.
Love forever and always,
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