House Hunt – Over for Now
Good Morning!
Well we have had a bit of a new change here. HAHA! this house selling/buying saga never ends. Our buyers didn’t fulfill their contract. They didn’t get the info to their lender and they aren’t in a real hurry to get that done. They apparently thought we would just keep extending the closing date? really? I can’t even bid on anything without cash …as we have learned.
Lessons have been learned. I am actually thankful that all of this happened. There are many reasons. I learned about the buying/selling process. I thought the most difficult part would be finding a buyer. I was so wrong. The hard part is buying a house. Bidding on house in this market with a contract is not great. Nobody will look at you unless you have cash. Now when I sell this house I will automatically be including in my contract that I will need to rent for several months after closing. I need time to buy a house with a cash offer.
I also had a home inspection. I have learned all of the things that need to be repaired on my house. Today I am getting a new roof as a result of that. Rob has also repaired a few other things and we have a list of some other things that need to be done. I feel good about that. Things have been neglected a bit because of our work schedules. So it’s nice to have someone else tell us what needs to be done.
I have also learned that Rob and I have to work on communication skills a bit more. There have been issues during this process that have revealed weak points. We have both been under a huge amount of stress.
But we have a different issue that is making us take a pause at this time. We have a family member fighting an illness that is terminal (They don’t realize this yet). We don’t have all of the details just yet. We are waiting on some more test results. The Dr asked us to come in on the next appointment after the tests are done. I think at this time we just need to know all of the information and then make some decisions from there. We just need to be there and make sure we focus on the right things at this time. We already have a busy enough schedule without the added stress of buying/selling/relocating.
I am not excited about “living in limbo” but now that I have been doing this for several months I am apparently ok with different degrees of limbo now. hehe.
I have been so stressed that I have been eating like a horse. I have been crazy. I have not been as productive as usual. In the last few days…i feel so much better. I have not eaten any sugar. I feel relief and I have been back to my normal productive self. I need the break.
I will keep you all updated. :)
I hope you all have a wonderful day!
Charisma
Thank you for sharing your house selling ordeals. I, too, have learned a lot from your adventure. Your quilt pattern in the AQS mag. is lovely. On my list.
Cheers
Life is a constance balancing act. Having someone you love being diagnosed with a terminal illness is life altering (I know, i have been there). In my case I refused to eat. Once you get this news NOTHING else is truly important. Stay where you are for as long as you can. Take a day at a time. As for you and your honey – we married folk (it had been 50 years for me when my husband was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer) fall into a comfort zone that does not give us the time, the leisure, the need to sit and talk. Not about the dreams we have, the problems we face, the decisions that seem insurmountable. Sit and talk. There are so many things left unsaid – say them now. It sounds silly, but go out for pizza, sit across a table from one another – sans phones – and talk. He is your best friend, your confidant. Make time for each other every day. I promise everything will be OK.
Praying about the housing situation and your relative who is ill. Two huge items, but the second is the worst. Hugs and prayers from here!
Sending prayers and best wishes for your many issues right now. Remember to take good care of yourselves too. Much love and respect, Gail
Gosh you have your plate full!!! Hopefully you are deep breathing and taking a few minutes for yourself!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please let me know if I can lighten your load!!! Lots of hugs Charisma. You are my Inspiration in so many areas!!! You got this!!!
Gosh you have your plate full!!! Hopefully you are deep breathing and taking a few minutes for yourself!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please let me know if I can lighten your load!!! Lots of hugs Charisma. You are my Inspiration in so many areas!!! You got this!!!
Praise God Charisma! A building inspection is very important to have done, we did that 6 mos before we sold our house (carrying the papers for 3 years so buyer could afford house – single father with teenage son). We were ok with that, he’s the son of a quilting friend of mine. All good. Far less, less, less stress after 10 years wanting to sell, lousy renters (last, house fire, $30K damage – insurance covered – 2 adults, one teenager and 4 dogs all survived – praise
God). We got a basically brand new house inside from the smoke damage, minimal fire damage. It took a year for renovations, sold 11 mos after the fire.
All things work out as planned, even the journey of doing the stress, finding communication needs upgrading, He provides both strength and growth, patience, love, forgiveness, caution, praise, rebirth and death to be born anew again. I pray for your family member who is sick, and those of you that will be helping to provide the assistance and love necessary to more forward. Blessings Charisma
Add a wedding to the mix and you’ll really see what you’re made of! I am glad your buyers postponed once too often, gives you some breathing room. Which, apparently, you need right now. Prayers for comfort and guidance…
Sounds like you are making the right decisions, I had the same problem with a buyer when I sold in Oregon, I ended up keeping ½ of the earnest money, since he has caused me to lose more than one house, and slowed me down on being able to move.
I’m so sorry this happened, but it sounds like the universe stepped in and slowed things down for you. Living in limbo sucks. But venting is the best thing you can do. Your plate sounds like it is overflowing with everything going on. especially with a loved ones health. You & Rob just need a breather. It’s probably good you are taking a step back and coming up with a new strategy. You just have to be a united front in whatever decisions you make. You are so right, communication is KEY!
Sending hugs & prayers for your sanity.
When it’s right, it will happen!