Simple-Small- Life matters

Hi Friends,

It’s getting close to the end of the year. It’s that time when we think about all of those New Years resolutions and goals that we want to work on. I kind of stay away from making “resolutions” because I have done that and failed…LOL…so there is this negative feeling about those within my head space.

However, I set goals regularly and those seem to sit better with me. I know it’s probably a little early to talk about this because Christmas hasn’t passed yet….but I am always thinking about these types of things ….I am always on a quest to better myself in some way. I am reflecting on a lot of things lately…..and thinking about where I want to be…where I want to go and changes I want to make.

I have been thinking about the goals I have had success with….

In January of 2014 I got on the Dave Ramsey plan and threw myself into that…..We paid off all of our debt ( except our house …I am making double payments and we did do a re-fi for less interest rate)  in 18 months. So that was such a success. We have not been as diligent with our money since that….so we do need to start investing in our future retirement ect. We still have our savings and what not…but we have been letting some spending habits slide in.

But the things we paid for since then were: all brand new appliances, a new car, a new kitchen and a surgery for myself. So in the grand scheme of things paying cash for all of these things is OK. They were “needed”..mostly. Had we not been debt free we would not have been able to do those things or we would have had to get a loan…..but we didn’t. That’s awesomeness!!

Small changes in our monthly budget helped give us financial freedom.

Diligence paid off in a BIG way.

In 2015, I decided I would work on myself. I decided in March I would get surgery ….and once I made that choice I again, threw myself in…2 feet -> all in.

Once I healed from the surgery….got my diet and fluid intake ( under some control) I started exercising. I started out walking a 19-20 minute mile. I eventually worked up to jogging 3 miles….then 4-5. In just a few months of time.

A little bit of work each day pays off. No matter what the goal is. If you think about the BIG picture….in anything-> it’s overwhelming. When I thought about losing 125 pounds of weight it just made me not even want to try. Honestly, that thought was so terrifying. The ups & downs.

Once I had lost around 65-70 and realized I was more than halfway there it’s didn’t seem so terrible. The second half & closer to goal weight is what is going to be harder to lose. I get that…..but I think my mind is better.

I have heard so many times about how 1 small thing can create a BIG change…….I think, I wasn’t a believer…until now. I mean, I wanted to believe that…..I had been inspired so many times by those “ripple effect” stories……but I think until I could see the HUGE progress I have made in my own life with small changes it didn’t sink in for me.

Having the financial end of things worked out is so freeing for me. Honestly……I was working so much (killing myself) and trying to keep up with everything. Stressed about money each week…..and Rob would just say “You are always stressed about money….and it always works out”

That wasn’t helpful. Now I breathe easy. Are we wealthy? No. But I am not stressing anytime I spend 15 $ here or there and we can pay for extras that come up without being in a panic….(depending..LOL) . I still get knee jerk reactions with some totals.

I can also make choices with my business and free time that I couldn’t have before taking days off. I used to work 7 days a week…then it went to 6 …now it’s 5. I work like other people do? That’s a nice thing. I get to take care of myself a little bit more..and I am not going to feel guilty about that.

So I don’t ever want to be in that position of making car payments or anything ever again. I like having days off and freedom. Freedom is such a meaningful word to me. It’s resonating within me.

The weight-work out thing is also a great way for me to realize how big changes happen in small -little changes every day…rather than some momentous leap. It’s been work…for 7 months.

I am in it for the long haul and I have realized this is a lifestyle..people say that…without really meaning it.

Small changes everyday create BIG outcomes. I am a believer.

So thinking about small changes…..the ripple effect How Am I going to approach 2016?

I am thinking about everyday small things that I need to do. I have been seeing-reading-hearing all of these different things…The happiness projects, Learning to say “yes” and all of these life changing things that people have done…by just deciding to change 1 thing in their lives. Purposefully and mindfully deciding to just change one small thing and it ends up creeping into other parts of their lives and impacting them in ways they never imagined.

I am trying to figure out what I can do. I know it will have to be something mindful. Meaningful and attainable.

So I am thinking about that.

One things that keeps coming to my mind is “freedom”

I think in so many forms….I am getting free from the fat prison I had made for myself. I can no longer use the excuse that I can’t do something because of my weight. I am getting strong….and that is creating freedom for me….in so many ways.

I have financial freedom ( somewhat) and therefore I get to make decisions based on what I want to do ..rather than what I need to do. That’s refreshing.

I need mental freedom. I am working on that.

In a time when it seems as Americans our freedoms are being taken away from us ……I think I am having to focus on ways in which I can create freedom for myself in these small ( but major personally ) ways. I am scared of what my kids and grandkids will have to endure …honestly the world is becoming so scary.

One goal I have in 2016: I have never been one to care about gun rights either way. I felt to each their own. I didn’t want them in the house while my kids were young…even if they were “educated” ect. I had seen to many dateline specials …where kids knew how to use them and grabbed them even when they knew they weren’t supposed to. Now I am going to take a class & get trained in Gun safety and I am going to purchase a gun. Not because I think I will ever use it….but because I don’t think it hurts to be educated myself. It’s becoming apparent that so many of our rights are being threatened and I just think I need to take full advantage of what I can, while I can. You just never know when you will be in a situation…when you will need that type of training. In my case…I think a self defense course would be more my style….and much more needed. But that is not offered in my area…however gun safety is. I think more people own a concealed weapons permit around these parts than not.  I know this will have mixed reactions…and like I said…I have never felt strongly one way or another until now.

I feel so vulnerable every time I go into the city or to a huge venue where there is a massive group of people. There is no reason any of us should feel that way. I know the chances are slim….and I have a better chance of being in a car accident. But I just think it’s the same thing. We learn how to drive defensively ….we take classes and we get educated. I am doing the same with gun safety.

I am not a politician and I certainly don’t have answers to solve our country’s problems….I am simply trying to survive my environment. I am blessed. I still think this is the best Country in the World and…..I am thankful I live here. I am hoping something great happens to bring us all together and we start to heal.

So I am going to take the next couple of weeks to reflect on what I want to do in 2016. How I want to love a free life and what will bring me more happiness, peace, love and Hope.

I hope you do the same.





10 thoughts on “Simple-Small- Life matters

  1. Thank you for this post. I needed to hear that it’s the small steps that’ll give me progress in the direction I want to go. Financially and with my weight also. Your creativity with quilting inspires me and I’ve enjoyed following your weight loss journey. I , too, feel like I’m stuck in a rut and can’t get out. You give me hope.

  2. wow wonderful thoughts Dear, This year I want to work on the financial end of things and get them straight. I want to get back to my quilting, I miss having a needle in my hands, and would like to take a class on writing. You write so lovely and my friend from England does too.Lastly To keep my goals on my weight and lose 25 more lbs. The best to each of us. I have loved this last year to follow you and your journey. I love you my Dear One. Patricia

  3. Charisma, you are so wise beyond your years! Wiser than I am for sure. Know that you are an inspiration to me. I need to make several of these steps too but keep finding excuses to hold me back. You and your family are in my prayers. Pat

  4. Have a Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year! You have
    done amazingly well this year and I love that you are encouraging other people along the way! Keep up the good
    work and be sure to build in time for you and special times with your family!

  5. Such a thoughtful, inspiring memo to life. We all can take these things to heart. I am so encouraged by your walk. Thank you for sharing your heart with us and encouraging us to be true to ourselves. I small change, I can do that! Thank you and God bless!

  6. Charisma, I love love love this post. I have also made resolutions only to disappoint myself. I’m not on a different mission- I’m going to TRY to make changes. If I fail I get to start over. That has freed me from a lot of wasted guilt. For me guilt has not been useful in my life. It’s taken me years to figure that out but it’s okay.
    I try to be more gentle with myself these days and am a lot happier. And in many ways only I can make myself happy.
    My best wishes for Christmas and the New Year to a very special woman- YOU

  7. Charisma: I think you are a wise and thoughtful person. I am a lot older than you, and it took me years to reach that level of understanding. I, too need to set goals for 2016, and hope I can follow through on them without my dear Jack, who I am missing very much. I am happy that I have a good faith and wonderful support of friends and family. Being on my own at 82 is possible because we did the same as you, becoming debt free and providing for the future. Owning your home and having no debts is a blessing you can give yourself, and I do recommend it. It sure worked for us (Me), I encourage you to keep up the good work you are doing, and God & the Universe will bless you always. Thank you for sharing your story. I love you. Roberta

  8. Yahoo! What can I say that has not been said above? You are amazing…..and I know the New Year has so many fantastic things awaiting you! Keep up the good work.

  9. I really appreciated this post. I really do need to take time, Not only to ponder and think about this wonderful time of year and the Reason for the Season, but what I will accomplish in 2016. thank you for your wonderful post. You are doing so great and inspiring to us all.

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